Food Therapy July 2, 2008

Well, yes, I was avoiding writing about what I really wanted to write about and it was about my sister in law.

I posted a few wks back about our “phone call” and it has been a situation that has been on a back burner but will never truly not exist.

We have, since the “phone call”, arranged to have our daughters get together for a play date. After her dutiful call to me on Mother’s Day (courtesy of my Sicilian dad’s urging)we did speak once after. It was pleasant, yet uncomfortable b/c there was of course, no mention at all to her not so nice behavior. I phoned my brother and his wife to arrange the playdate w/no response but yet, a couple of days later, received an email to arrange it.   We went on our fabulous trip to Italy and once again, I was dreaming of moving there. 19 days was not enough. The food, the people, the FOOD! It’s just an amazing country and I will promise to post some photos and some blurbs. We ate and my hubbie and I gained I think 5lbs each (ok, it’s not alot, but it took me a long time to lose those last 5lbs from the baby!)

I was thinking of contacting my brother to see my nieces but I know I have to reach her most likely, b/c he didn’t return my call last month and was as cold as ice the last couple times we saw eachother.

As two weeks past and I still hadn’t gotten the nerve to call my sis in law I received this letter. Now granted, the last playdate before my trip was made on my initiative and by my phone calls with no response from them except for her email…she wrote me these words:

Dear Lora,

 

I

have made several attempts to reach out to you. I have texted you, called you on Mothers Day, emailed you, and most recently, invited Gabriella to come to the movies. In each attempt, you have not responded. I am not reaching out to you to fix what has been broken for over 10 years and may never be able to be fixed; our relationship. I am trying to be respectful to the fact that we are family and there should be some sort of communication.

 

Since you are unable to talk to your brother, I once again, have stepped in. Based on history, I have always been the one to reach out to you after a conflict. This time I want to stress that I would always welcome the opportunity to arrange a playdate, so that we can see the kids and also your mother.

 

I am not going to keep trying to fix this. It is too many years of conflict. Once you can accept the way things are, and will always be, it will make for a more cordial experience when dealing with each other.

 

 

 

Thanks,

“charming sister in law”

Nice! I will post my response later as there is a major lightning storm…more to come!